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People-Pleasing Is Not a Spiritual Behavior
People-pleasing is the real life result of “others first” thinking. You don’t speak up because you want to keep the other person happy. You don’t want them to yell at you, or for the relationship to change. Deep down, behind all that fear, you’ve decided their comfort is more important than your own. This is not a spiritual behavior.
4 “Good Things” You Do that are Actually Sneaky Self-Sabotages in Disguise
All these “character traits” that I revered and thought made me “a good person” were actually deeply damaging (especially to my business). I share these not to shame you if you have them (because I saw them first in myself), but rather to give you the gift of awareness. So that the next time one of these old wool sweaters of people-pleasing comfort slips on, you can say: “No thank you, I prefer cashmere.”
Why You Struggle To Set Boundaries as a People-Pleaser
Rest assured, if you are a people-pleasers whose boundaries feel as whispy as wild grass in the wind, you’re not wrong for this. Now you can address the beliefs that keep you in the cycle of putting everyone else first and bending over backward to help. Today you’re going to learn what’s going on behind the scenes in your brain so you can be intentional.
How To End the People-Pleasing/Weak Boundaries Cycle
People-pleasing is a trauma response and actually evidences deep caring for yourself. You are trying to keep yourself safe. Understanding this is the first piece of disrupting this cycle.Now let’s get into why it is necessary to end it and how you can find your way out.
3 Things About Boundary Setting That I Wish I’d Known Earlier
Boundaries are an essential part of life, but to the highly-sensitive empath, they may not come naturally. You’ve likely spent a lot of time worrying about keeping the peace and making sure others are happy. In this post today, I want to share *3 super important pieces of information* about Boundary Setting that I wish I’d known earlier. Hopefully, with these things in mind, you have a slightly easier time beginning to flex this muscle.
Virtual Reiki? How It Works + What To Expect
I want to clarify something that I get asked from time to time - how does virtual reiki work? Let me start by saying that this is a totally valid question. Reiki seems like a situation where you’re holding your hands over, or even directly touching someone. How on earth does it work when you’re across the country or around the world?