3 Things About Boundary Setting That I Wish I’d Known Earlier
Boundaries are an essential part of life, but to the highly-sensitive empath, they may not come naturally. You’ve likely spent a lot of time worrying about keeping the peace and making sure others are happy. I’m guessing you avoid conflict and don’t particularly enjoy putting your foot down to stand up for yourself. However, you are just a deserving of setting boundaries as the next person.
In this post today, I want to share 3 super important pieces of information about Boundary Setting that I wish I’d known earlier. Hopefully, with these things in mind, you have a slightly easier time beginning to flex this muscle.
1. They are about me, not the other person
Boundaries are an act of self-love and self-protection. They teach other people how to treat you, and reinforce to you how you deserve to be treated. They are not about damaging the relationship and are actually a tool to strengthen it because you aren’t harboring resentment.
2. I’m allowed to make them sound like things I would actually say
There are levels to boundaries and you don’t have to go in verbal guns blazing drawing a hard line in the sand. You also don’t have to make them sound robotic and include words you wouldn’t actually say. If you wouldn’t naturally tell your friend “I don’t have bandwidth for this” then don’t phrase it that way. Boundaries are about communicating what you desire in a way that feels true to you. Boundaries can be like a hard cement wall, or they can be like a row of sunflowers.
3. No matter what, I can’t control how the other person reacts
While I believe that we can invite other people to rise into their Higher Self while we set boundaries, you can never guarantee how they will respond. By embracing nonviolent communication, you can remove the energetic charge from your message, but you can’t decide how they will hear and receive it. Knowing the reason underlying your boundary will make it easier to hold your position if they react poorly.
I hope these tips save you a lot of grief next time you are setting a boundary with someone! Let me know below which is the biggest breakthrough for you! <3
